Every day, kids and teens are chatting, sharing, and connecting online. It feels normal, even fun. But hidden inside those messages and photos are risks that can shape a child’s safety, mental health, and future. Whether it’s a quick selfie, a private joke, or a direct message from someone new, what seems like a harmless moment can become a problem later. Parents often don’t know what’s happening in those digital spaces. Kids often don’t realize how one click can open the door to strangers, pressure, or even danger.
1. 60% of teens have received a message from a stranger online
Let’s pause and think about this. More than half of all teens have had a stranger slide into their DMs. That’s not just a number. That’s your child, your student, or someone you know getting a message from someone they’ve never met. It might start as a simple “Hi” or a compliment. But it can quickly turn into something much riskier.
Why does this happen? Most social platforms make it easy for anyone to message anyone. Kids often have public profiles or use apps where DMs are open by default. It means strangers can reach them without effort. The stranger could be another teen—or someone pretending to be one.
What’s the risk? When kids respond, even just out of curiosity or kindness, it can lead to sharing too much. Strangers might ask for pictures, personal info, or try to build fake friendships. Some are looking to scam or groom kids slowly over time. Others might just want to mess around and cause emotional harm.
Here’s what you can do. Start talking to your child about online messages now—not after something goes wrong. Keep it calm, not scary. Ask if they’ve ever had someone message them that they didn’t know.
Let them share without fear of getting in trouble. Then, go into their favorite apps together and check the privacy settings. Show them how to block strangers and turn off DMs where possible.
More importantly, teach them this simple rule: if you don’t know them in real life, you don’t talk to them online. Make that a family standard. Also, help them understand that not all strangers are who they say they are—even if they look like a kid, have the same interests, or use friendly emojis.
Remind your child that it’s always okay to ignore, block, and report. And let them know they can come to you if something feels weird. That trust makes all the difference.
2. 1 in 4 teens say they’ve shared a personal photo with someone they’ve never met in real life
That’s 25 out of every 100 kids. Sharing a personal photo may seem harmless. Maybe it’s just a selfie. Maybe it’s fun. But when that photo goes to someone they’ve never met face-to-face, the risk jumps high.
Teens often think they’re in control. They might feel they know the person they’re chatting with. But online, it’s easy for people to pretend. A person could be using a fake name, fake photo, or fake story. And once a photo is sent, there’s no getting it back. That photo can be copied, saved, and shared.
It’s not always about “inappropriate” pictures. Even a normal photo can give clues—like a school logo, a street sign, or a bedroom in the background. Strangers can piece those clues together and learn where your child lives or goes to school. That’s scary.
So what’s the plan? Teach your child to ask one question before they share anything: Do I really know this person? If the answer is no, then the photo shouldn’t be sent. It doesn’t matter how nice the person seems or how long they’ve been talking.
It also helps to make a rule in your home: no photo sharing with online-only friends. Talk openly about why. Share stories (there are plenty online) of kids who sent a picture and then got blackmailed, bullied, or embarrassed.
Parents—don’t just say “don’t do it.” Go deeper. Talk about real consequences. Help your child understand that what’s funny or cute today can come back later to hurt them in school, in relationships, or even in their job search.
And finally, let them know this: if they’ve already shared something they regret, it’s not the end. They can come to you. They can still take action. What matters is that they feel supported, not shamed.
3. 70% of cyberbullying cases start in private messages or DMs
Think about that. Most online bullying doesn’t happen in public posts or comments. It happens where no one else can see—inside private chats.
Cyberbullying in DMs is sneaky. It can look like teasing, joking, or just being “mean.” But it hurts deeply. It can include name-calling, threats, spreading lies, or pressuring someone to do something. The worst part? It often goes unnoticed by adults.
Why DMs? Because bullies know it’s harder to get caught there. They can say cruel things without the world watching. And because the victim is alone with the message, the impact is stronger.
What can we do? First, talk to your child about what bullying looks like online. It’s not just someone calling names. It’s repeated unkind messages. It’s making someone feel small, scared, or unsafe. Let your child know that even if no one else sees it, it’s still bullying.
Check in with your child often. Ask them how people treat them online. Do they feel safe in their chats? Has anyone been mean in DMs? Keep these talks normal and frequent—like asking how school went.
If you ever see signs of sadness, anxiety, or fear around their phone or tablet, don’t ignore it. Ask with love, not anger. And if bullying is happening, take screenshots and report it. Most platforms have ways to block and report users.
Let your child know this: they are never alone. You’re on their side. They have a right to feel safe online, just like in real life.
4. 50% of kids aged 10–17 have shared personal details like their school or location online
Half of all kids are giving out personal information online. It could be in a post, in a bio, or inside a private message. And most of the time, they don’t realize it’s dangerous.
What kind of info are we talking about? Their school name. Their neighborhood. The sports team they play for. Even sharing the name of a sibling or a favorite nearby restaurant can give clues about where they live.
Why do kids do this? It’s often innocent. Maybe they’re excited about a school event or chatting with a new online friend. But once that info is out, it can be used in bad ways. Strangers can use those details to track, follow, or even pretend to be someone close to the child.
So how do we stop this? Start by teaching your child what “personal info” really means. Many kids don’t think their school name is private. But it is. Make a list together of things they should never share online—no matter how nice the person seems.
Go into their apps and look at their bios, posts, and DMs. Help them clean up anything too revealing. Show them how to set profiles to private and remove location tags.
Also, help them practice saying no. When someone online asks “Where do you go to school?” they should be ready to say, “I don’t share that online.” Practice it like a script until it feels natural.
And remember: this isn’t about scaring them. It’s about giving them tools to stay smart and safe.
5. Over 40% of teens say they’ve felt pressured to send a “risky” photo in a DM
That’s not just about what’s being asked. It’s about how kids feel when they’re asked. They may not want to send the photo. But they feel trapped. Maybe the person keeps asking. Maybe they say, “If you love me, you will.” Or they threaten to stop being friends.
This is pressure. And it’s real. Kids want to fit in. They want to be liked. They don’t always feel strong enough to say no.
So what’s the answer? First, talk to your child about pressure. Tell them it’s okay to say no. Help them practice how to respond. Try saying, “I’m not comfortable with that,” or “That’s not something I do.” Saying it out loud helps build confidence.
Second, let your child know they can come to you if they ever feel pressured. You won’t be mad. You’ll help. That safety net gives them power.
Also, talk about trust. If someone truly respects them, they won’t push them to do something that feels wrong. Help them spot red flags. Anyone who says “Don’t tell anyone” or “Just one time” is showing signs of manipulation.
Finally, remind them that they don’t owe anyone a photo, a reply, or a reason. Their body and their boundaries belong to them. And they are allowed to protect both.
6. 1 in 7 teens have sent a sext to someone they didn’t know well
This is a tough one. Sexting has become more common among teens, but sending a risky photo or message to someone they barely know? That adds a whole new layer of risk.
Let’s look at the why. Some teens are curious. Others want attention. Sometimes, they just think it’s normal—because everyone else seems to be doing it. But sending that kind of content to someone they don’t truly know can lead to serious consequences.
What’s the danger? Once it’s sent, it’s gone. The person on the other end can screenshot, save, or share it with others. And if that person turns out to be lying about who they are, things can spiral quickly. Many teens who sext end up feeling embarrassed, scared, or even blackmailed.
So how can we help? Talk openly. No shame. No yelling. Just honesty. Make sure your child knows that their worth doesn’t depend on someone’s approval. They don’t need to “prove” love or friendship through photos.
Also, help them understand that risky photos don’t just disappear. Apps like Snapchat may say messages vanish—but people can still take screenshots or use a second device to record.
Give them a phrase to use if someone ever asks for that kind of photo: “I’m not that kind of person.” Practice it. Make it feel strong, not shy.
And if they’ve already made a mistake, be the adult they can come to. Help them move forward with care, not judgment. Because your support is what makes them stronger.
7. 90% of screenshots shared online come from private messages
This stat says it all: private doesn’t mean private. Almost all screenshots that get shared—from embarrassing jokes to serious content—start in a place that was supposed to be safe.
Why does this happen? Because people can’t always be trusted with private information. A friend today might become upset tomorrow. Or someone might share it “just for fun,” without realizing the damage it could do.
That means everything a child sends in a DM can be screenshotted and passed around—even things that seem harmless at the time. A silly joke. A vent about a teacher. A crush confession. It can all go public with just one screenshot.
So what’s the move? Teach your child one simple rule: Don’t send anything you wouldn’t want everyone to see. That includes jokes, photos, and personal thoughts.
Also, show them how screenshots work. Many kids don’t even realize someone can snap a picture of their chat and send it around. Walk them through it. Let them see how easy it is to lose control of a message once it’s sent.
This isn’t about fear. It’s about smart habits. Just like we teach kids to think before speaking, we need to teach them to think before sharing—even in private chats.
And if they’re ever hurt by a screenshot being shared, remind them: you’re on their side. Together, you can report it, talk to school staff, and work on healing.
8. Over 55% of kids who were exposed to explicit content got it via private DMs
This might surprise many parents. We often think explicit content is found in search engines or websites. But for kids, it often shows up right inside their chats.
That’s because predators, strangers, or even other kids can send explicit links, photos, or videos in messages—often without warning. One click, and a child sees something they can’t unsee.
This kind of content can harm a child’s mental health, warp their views of relationships, and lead to fear or confusion. Sometimes it’s even used to lure them into deeper conversations or risky behavior.
How do we stop it? First, make sure kids know they can come to you if they ever see something disturbing. Don’t punish. Just listen. Comfort. Then take action together.
Go into their favorite apps and check the DM settings. Can strangers message them? If so, change it. Turn off auto-downloads for photos and videos. Teach them not to click on random links—even if they seem funny or harmless.
And make it clear: If someone sends something weird, they should stop the conversation immediately and tell an adult. No shame. No guilt.
Protecting kids from explicit content in DMs isn’t about watching every move. It’s about giving them the tools to handle it if and when it comes.
9. More than 25% of online predators use DMs to initiate contact
This is serious. DMs have become a key tool for predators to reach out to kids. They often pretend to be someone friendly, kind, or even close in age. The goal? Build trust. Then slowly cross the line.
It might start with simple compliments. Then it becomes more personal. Maybe they ask for a photo. Then another. Then something inappropriate. It happens over days or even weeks.
What can parents do? First, teach kids what grooming looks like. It’s not always creepy at first. It often feels like a “friendship.” Talk about warning signs like: someone who wants to keep the chat secret, someone who flatters a lot, or someone who tries to isolate your child from others.
Second, encourage your child to keep DMs limited to real-life friends only. It’s not rude to ignore strangers. It’s smart.
Third, if anything feels off—anything at all—tell your child to come to you. You’ll help, not judge.
Lastly, know what apps your child uses. Stay involved. Not in a spying way, but in a “we’re in this together” way. When kids know they’re supported, they make safer choices.
10. Only 30% of parents regularly monitor their child’s DMs
This stat is a wake-up call. Most parents are not checking what’s going on in their child’s private chats. Not because they don’t care—but because they assume things are fine, or they don’t want to invade privacy.
But here’s the truth: DMs are where most risky behavior happens. From bullying to sexting to predator contact—it all happens in messages that parents never see.
So what can be done? First, have an agreement with your child. Let them know that as a parent, it’s your job to keep them safe online—just like in real life. Set rules that you’ll occasionally check in, especially if they’re under 16.
Use a gentle tone. Say, “I trust you. But I also want to help you if something ever goes wrong.” Make it about teamwork, not control.
Use parental tools wisely. Many phones and apps allow limited monitoring. Use them not to snoop, but to stay aware. Talk to your child about what’s okay to share—and what’s not.
And most importantly, keep the door open for honest talks. If your child feels safe talking to you, they’re more likely to tell you before something becomes a real problem.
11. 43% of teens admit to having secret online accounts hidden from their parents
This one is big. Nearly half of teens have “finstas” (fake Instagram accounts) or private profiles that their parents don’t know about. These secret accounts are used to post things they don’t want adults to see—or to talk to people away from their main accounts.
Why do they do this? Sometimes it’s for fun. Sometimes it’s to escape pressure or judgment. But often, it’s to hide risky behavior—like talking to strangers or sharing personal content.
How can you handle this? First, avoid overreacting. Don’t start with punishment. Start with curiosity. Ask your child: “Are there any other accounts you use that I don’t know about?” Say it kindly. Make space for honesty.
Let them know you want to be part of their online world—not to spy, but to support. Make a family rule that all accounts must be known and visible. If your child is hiding something, there’s usually a reason. Get to the root of it.
Create trust. Be the person they can turn to if something ever gets scary, weird, or confusing. Because secret accounts are a symptom. The solution is connection.
12. 1 in 3 kids have lied about their age to access platforms with DMs
Many platforms require users to be 13 or older, but that rule is easy to bypass. Kids simply change the birth year when signing up. Just like that, they’re in—and now they can receive DMs from strangers, interact in private, and explore content not meant for their age.
Why do they lie? Most of the time, it’s peer pressure or curiosity. Their friends are on the app, so they want to join too. Sometimes, they want to feel older. But the truth is, these platforms aren’t built for kids. The content, the messages, the people—it can all be overwhelming and unsafe.
So, what should you do if you suspect your child is using an app that’s not age-appropriate? Start by asking—not accusing. You might say, “Hey, I’ve noticed a lot of kids your age use apps meant for older teens. Have you ever tried one?”
If the answer is yes, don’t panic. Talk about why the age rule exists. Explain that older users might send messages that aren’t kind or safe. Let them know you’re not mad—you just want to help keep them safe.
Go through each app together. Look at the settings. If it’s not a good fit for their age, consider removing it until they’re older. Offer safer alternatives or games that still feel social, but without risky private messaging.
And above all, remind them: lying to get into something too old for them never ends well. It’s better to wait—and stay safe.
13. 75% of online grooming cases happen through direct messages
This is one of the most alarming stats out there. Grooming doesn’t usually happen in public comments or posts. It happens in private, where no one else is watching. Direct messages give predators a quiet place to build fake trust with kids and teens.
They start slow. Friendly. Kind. They compliment. They ask questions. They act like they care. Over time, they push boundaries—bit by bit—until the child is trapped in a situation that feels scary or shameful.
It can happen to any child. Smart kids. Confident kids. Kids with strong families. Groomers are manipulative, and they know what they’re doing.
So how do we stop them?
First, talk to your child about grooming. Use clear, simple words. Say things like, “Some adults pretend to be nice online to trick kids into doing things they shouldn’t.” Make sure your child knows the signs: too many compliments, personal questions, secret-keeping, and pressure to send photos or meet in person.
Then, set strong digital rules. No chatting with strangers. No sharing personal info. No secrets online. Ever.
Check their DM settings and limit who can contact them. Encourage them to come to you if anything feels weird. Even if it’s just a small gut feeling—those instincts matter.
And if you suspect grooming has started, take action immediately. Report the account. Save messages. Involve the platform or even law enforcement. Your child’s safety is worth it.
14. DMs are used in 60% of teen blackmail cases involving images
Here’s the harsh truth: many blackmail situations don’t start with threats. They start with trust. A teen sends an image in a private message, thinking it’s safe. Then the person on the other end flips the script. Suddenly, they’re demanding more pictures. Or money. Or silence.
This is known as sextortion, and it’s rising fast.
Most victims feel scared, ashamed, and stuck. They don’t want their parents to know. They don’t want their photo shared. So they try to handle it alone. But that’s dangerous.
The first and most important step? Tell your child: If anyone ever threatens them over a photo, they must tell you immediately. No matter what they’ve shared. No matter what the other person says.
Make it clear: you won’t be mad. You won’t punish them. You’ll help them.
Second, teach them this: never send photos that could be used to hurt them. Not even as a joke. Not even to someone they trust. Because even trusted people can make bad choices—or get hacked.
And third, help them understand this: They are not to blame. If someone is blackmailing them, that person is a criminal. Your child deserves protection, not punishment.
Always report these incidents. Platforms can remove the content. Authorities can step in. But the healing starts at home—with love, support, and action.
15. Over 50% of teens say they’ve deleted messages to hide them from parents
This is a sign that kids are dealing with things they don’t want adults to see. Maybe it’s a risky message. Maybe it’s something awkward. Or maybe it’s something serious—like pressure or threats.
Whatever it is, the instinct is the same: delete it. Hide it. Keep it a secret.
But deleting messages doesn’t fix the problem. It just covers it up. And it keeps parents in the dark when their support might be needed the most.
So what can you do?
Start by creating an open-door policy. Tell your child: “You can show me anything, even if it’s embarrassing or weird. I won’t judge. I’ll just help.”
Make that a family norm. And mean it.
If your child is deleting messages often, don’t assume the worst—but do stay curious. Ask questions like, “Have you ever had a chat you wish you could undo?” or “Is there something online you’ve felt weird about recently?”
Create a safe space for them to be honest. And if something serious ever happens—like bullying, pressure, or sextortion—remind them: deleting might erase the message, but it won’t erase the feeling. Talking about it helps.
And most of all, model the kind of digital honesty you want from them. Show them that even when things get messy, the best way out is together.
16. 60% of teens regret sending a message or image online
That’s a lot of regret. Six out of ten teens have looked back at something they sent and wished they hadn’t. Maybe it was a risky photo. Maybe a harsh message in anger. Maybe something they thought was private—but wasn’t.
This regret isn’t just about embarrassment. It can turn into anxiety, stress, or even depression. Some kids stop trusting themselves. Others pull away from friends and family.
So, what can be done?
Start with this: teach your child how to pause before they send. Help them build a habit of asking, “Would I be okay if someone else saw this?” If the answer is no, then don’t send it.
Practice digital thinking. Not just “Is this funny?” or “Will they like this?” but “Could this be misunderstood?” or “Could this hurt someone—including me?”
Also, talk about how to fix mistakes. Everyone messes up online at some point. What matters is how we handle it. If they’ve said something mean, they can apologize. If they sent a risky image, they can ask the person to delete it—and stop contact.
And if the regret is heavy, be there for them. Talk through it. Let them know this one mistake doesn’t define them. Everyone has a past online. What matters is what they learn and do next.
17. 1 in 10 teens have had a private photo shared without their permission
This is a deep violation of trust. A private photo—sent in confidence—being shared around can feel like the worst kind of betrayal. And it’s happening to more kids than you think.
Sometimes it’s done by an ex. Sometimes a friend turns on them. Other times, it’s a stranger. No matter what, the pain is real.
The fallout is emotional and social. Kids may feel shame, fear, anger, or sadness. They might stop going to school. They might shut down at home. It’s serious—and it needs real support.
So how can you help protect your child from this?
First, teach them that no one has the right to share their image. And they have no right to share someone else’s. Even if it’s “just a joke.” Even if they’re mad. That’s crossing a line—and it could be illegal.
Second, talk about consent. Always. Teach them to ask permission before sharing any image—even one that seems harmless. Make respect part of their digital life.
Third, if a photo is shared, act fast. Report it. Contact the platform. In some cases, go to the authorities. But don’t focus on punishment first. Focus on your child’s healing.
And most importantly: never blame the victim. Even if the photo was a mistake, sharing it without permission is the bigger wrong.
18. Only 20% of teens tell an adult when something goes wrong online
This is one of the scariest stats. When things go wrong—like bullying, blackmail, or pressure—only 1 out of 5 teens talks to an adult. That means most kids are facing hard things alone, scared, and unsure of what to do next.
Why don’t they speak up? Fear. Shame. Worry that they’ll get in trouble. Or that their device will be taken away. So they stay silent, even when they’re hurting.
But silence doesn’t protect them—it isolates them. And that’s when the risk grows.
What’s the solution? Build trust before there’s a problem. Make it clear to your child that they can come to you no matter what. That you’ll help, not punish. That you care more about their safety than the rules they might have broken.
Say things like, “If something weird ever happens online, I won’t take away your phone—I’ll take away the problem.” That one sentence can open the door to honesty.
Also, check in regularly. Ask not just what they’re doing online, but how they feel about it. If they seem anxious, distracted, or upset—especially after being on their device—gently ask if something happened.
And if they do come to you? Listen first. Fix later. They need your support more than your lecture.
19. 48% of girls aged 13–17 have received unwanted DMs from adult men
Nearly half. Let that sink in. Almost one in two teen girls is getting messages from adult men—messages they didn’t ask for, and likely don’t want. This is not just creepy—it’s dangerous.
These messages might seem innocent at first. A compliment. A question. But they can quickly turn inappropriate. Even if they don’t, they make girls feel watched, uncomfortable, and unsafe.
Why does this happen? Because platforms make it too easy. Unless privacy settings are locked down, anyone can message anyone. And predators take full advantage.
So what can you do? Start with settings. Go into your child’s apps and limit who can send them messages. Turn off “Anyone can DM” if possible. Make profiles private. Disable location tagging.
Then, talk openly. Tell your daughter (or son—it happens to boys too): If an adult ever messages you, especially someone you don’t know, tell me right away. It’s not their fault. They didn’t “invite” the message by posting a photo or wearing a certain outfit.
Teach them that their safety is more important than being polite. They don’t need to reply. They don’t need to explain. They just need to block—and tell an adult.
Because no teen should feel unsafe in their own online space.
20. Over 30% of risky images shared by teens are taken from private message threads
This stat hits hard. It means the majority of inappropriate or risky images don’t come from public posts. They come from private conversations—where kids feel “safe.” But that safety is often false.
Once an image is shared, it can be screenshotted, saved, and passed around. What starts in private doesn’t always stay private.
And for many kids, it’s not about being reckless—it’s about trust. They believe the person they’re sending it to would never hurt them. Until they do.
How do we fix this?
Teach the truth about DMs: they’re not a vault. They’re not private. They’re not safe just because they feel hidden.
Help your child understand that anything shared digitally can be copied. No app feature can stop a screenshot. And once it’s out there, it’s out.
Instead of just saying, “Don’t send risky photos,” say, “You deserve friends and partners who never ask you to risk your privacy.” Make it about self-worth.
And if they’ve already sent something and regret it? Let them know you’ll help them recover—not punish them for being human.
21. Teens who overshare online are twice as likely to be cyberbullied
Oversharing doesn’t just put personal data at risk—it opens the door to emotional harm. When teens share too much online—photos, opinions, private feelings—they become easy targets for bullies.
Why? Because bullies look for something to use. Maybe it’s a goofy selfie. A rant about a teacher. A post about a breakup. It gives them ammo.
But teens don’t always know what counts as “oversharing.” To them, it’s just being real. Being funny. Being honest.
So how do we protect them?
First, teach what’s okay to share—and what’s best kept offline. If it’s emotional, very personal, or something that might be embarrassing later, it probably doesn’t belong online.
Second, model it yourself. Kids learn by watching. If you overshare on your own social media, they’ll think it’s normal.
Third, talk about reputation. Not in a scary way—but in a way that makes sense. Say, “Every post is a piece of your story. What kind of story do you want people to read?”
And remind them: if someone uses their post to bully or shame them, that’s on the bully—not them.
22. DMs are used in 4 out of 5 online scams targeting teens
Scammers don’t usually knock on your front door. They slide into your DMs.
They pretend to be friends. Or companies. Or influencers. They offer fake jobs, fake giveaways, or fake opportunities. And then they ask for something—money, passwords, photos, or personal info.
Teens fall for this because they’re not expecting it. The message seems real. The scammer is friendly. The offer feels exciting.
So, what’s the solution?
Start with awareness. Show your child real examples of scam messages. Walk them through how to spot the red flags: weird spelling, too-good-to-be-true offers, or people asking for private info.
Teach them this golden rule: If someone messages you out of nowhere and asks for anything—money, photos, clicks—it’s a scam.
And finally, set a house rule: never give out any private info through DMs. No passwords. No phone numbers. No codes. If someone asks, they should stop and tell you right away.
Scammers don’t care who they hurt. But when teens are prepared, they don’t get fooled.
23. Over 60% of digital drama among teens starts in private messages
Private messages are supposed to be safe zones. But in reality, they’re often the battlegrounds of teenage digital drama.
With over 60% of conflicts, fallouts, and emotional flare-ups among teens starting in DMs, the problem goes deeper than just individual behavior—it’s now a systemic issue that demands smarter digital design, better adult involvement, and clear, teachable boundaries.
For businesses working in the youth space—especially edtech platforms, social apps, or any brand offering digital community features—this stat isn’t just informative. It’s a call to action. How private communication tools are built and managed directly impacts user well-being, especially for younger audiences.
Drama in DMs often starts with a simple misunderstanding. A sarcastic comment. A passive-aggressive remark. A screenshot shared in a different group. But because these interactions are private, the damage grows quietly until it explodes publicly—causing emotional harm, school conflict, or even platform abandonment.
So how can businesses step in and make a real difference?
It starts with embedding conversation accountability tools directly into private message features. Rather than completely removing DMs (which teens will find elsewhere), platforms can introduce in-app nudges like tone alerts, real-time empathy checks, or “Are you sure?” prompts before a message is sent that includes keywords often linked to digital arguments.
Another angle is to allow teens to customize their DM safety settings in meaningful ways—like muting certain phrases, setting boundaries on who can message them based on behavioral history, or activating cooldown periods when conversations become heated. These features help users build better communication habits while giving them autonomy.
Education companies and school-aligned platforms should also consider weaving conflict resolution training into digital literacy modules.
Not just rules like “don’t be mean online,” but real-world practice scenarios: What do you do when your friend screenshots your message? How do you defuse an emotional message without ghosting or escalating? Teens need scripts, not just slogans.
On the monitoring side, businesses must tread carefully. Over-moderation in private spaces can feel invasive and cause trust issues.
However, companies can create anonymous support channels that allow users to flag DMs that made them uncomfortable, even if they’re not outright bullying. This helps detect patterns and identify users who might need extra guidance.
For parents, schools, and platforms like Debsie, it’s about building trust-based systems where teens feel equipped and safe enough to talk before the drama spirals.
Offering resources like real-time chat support, short video lessons on digital boundaries, or even DM etiquette guides can make a huge impact. Even small touches, like positive reinforcement when a teen resolves a situation maturely, go a long way in reshaping digital culture.
Ultimately, reducing drama in DMs isn’t about removing communication. It’s about transforming it into a skill-building opportunity. For the brands who lead the way in this, the reward is not only safer communities—but stronger engagement, deeper trust, and real-world impact.
24. 35% of teens say they felt emotionally distressed by something they saw in a DM
When a teen opens a direct message and immediately feels a knot in their stomach, it leaves a mark that often lingers long after the screen is locked. Whether it’s a passive-aggressive message, a scary photo, or a cruel comment, DMs have become one of the primary emotional pain points for teens online.
The data is clear: 35% of teens report emotional distress tied directly to something they saw in a private message. This isn’t about typical mood swings or screen fatigue. It’s about real distress—tears, panic attacks, loss of sleep, or withdrawal from social life.
And since most DMs happen in private, these moments of harm are invisible to the platforms, the parents, and the schools trying to keep teens safe.
For businesses in the youth space, this is not just a safety challenge—it’s a design and duty challenge. Platforms that allow or encourage private messaging among teens must now move beyond the traditional model of content moderation.
It’s no longer just about flagging obvious threats. It’s about detecting emotional weight in content and empowering teens to regulate their digital mental space.
Imagine a messaging environment that not only protects from danger but also understands emotional tone. Brands can invest in sentiment-aware tools that flag emotionally charged language—not to punish, but to prompt thoughtful interaction.
A system that gently nudges a user if their message includes language patterns often linked to emotional harm could help prevent distress before it begins.
Another innovative approach is offering reflexive feedback loops within the DM space. If a teen receives a message and marks it as distressing—whether through a quick “this made me feel bad” tap or an emotion slider—the system can learn over time what types of content consistently hurt users.
This data can feed into content training algorithms and offer platforms a deeper, more empathetic understanding of the emotional dynamics of teen communication.
This same infrastructure could also connect teens, in real-time, with in-app emotional support resources. That might be guided breathing exercises, affirming messages, or the option to instantly talk to a counselor or trusted adult.
Businesses that embed mental wellness moments directly into digital environments are likely to see not only safer engagement but higher user satisfaction and loyalty.
From a curriculum standpoint, platforms like Debsie can lead by embedding emotional resilience training directly into lessons. Instead of only teaching “how to code” or “how to do algebra,” teens can also learn how to recognize and process emotional harm in digital spaces.
This builds a generation of learners who are not just smart—but emotionally intelligent and self-aware.
Businesses also need to consider how they talk to parents about this. A teen might never admit they were hurt by a message, but a parent who knows how to ask the right questions—or recognize early signs—can change the outcome completely.
Offering parent portals or digital coaching tools can bridge that gap and turn silent distress into safe, open dialogue.
The emotional toll of DMs is not an isolated issue. It’s a systemic opportunity. Companies that design with care, listen deeply to teen experiences, and build safety into the heart of their user experience are not just building tools—they’re building trust and transformation.
25. 40% of teens don’t know how to report or block someone on social media
The fact that 40% of teens don’t know how to report or block someone isn’t just a user gap—it’s a product design failure and a missed opportunity for impact. These features are often buried in menus, disguised under vague icons, or so awkwardly placed that users—especially younger ones—never bother to explore them until it’s too late.
For tech companies and learning platforms that serve pre-teens and teenagers, the stakes are high. When kids don’t know how to stop harmful interactions on their own, the platform becomes not just unsafe—it becomes complicit. And from a business perspective, this undermines trust, retention, and brand integrity.
This isn’t a matter of digital literacy alone. It’s a signal that safety tools are still treated as reactive utilities instead of proactive engagement features. Businesses must start viewing reporting and blocking as core to user empowerment—not afterthoughts at the bottom of a dropdown menu.
Forward-thinking platforms should treat these tools like built-in behaviors. Reporting and blocking shouldn’t be hidden. They should be onboarded—taught clearly during account setup, gamified for confidence-building, and even embedded within conversations using friendly, scenario-based prompts.
The psychology of safety tools matters. Teens are more likely to use tools they feel ownership of—not ones that feel corporate, stiff, or disconnected. If a platform can introduce these tools using the tone and language of the teen demographic—without condescension or fear—it creates immediate engagement.
A well-timed in-app message like, “Not feeling this convo? Here’s how to mute or block. No drama, just peace,” lands much better than a vague shield icon buried in settings.
Additionally, smart businesses are investing in just-in-time education. This means context-sensitive safety prompts that appear when patterns of potential harm are detected—like repeated unwanted messages or flagged keywords.
These prompts don’t just guide the teen—they model what emotional self-protection looks like. Imagine a message saying, “Looks like this chat’s getting intense. Want help stopping it?” with one-tap access to block/report features.
For learning platforms like Debsie or youth-focused communities, there’s also an opportunity to build interactive training around safety tools—mini-simulations where students practice spotting red flags, blocking fake users, or navigating tricky conversations.
These don’t need to be complex or lecture-like. They can be short, engaging, and designed with input from real teens. The outcome isn’t just awareness—it’s muscle memory.
Businesses can also flip the narrative by turning safety usage into something celebrated, not hidden. When a teen blocks someone who made them uncomfortable, platforms can respond with affirming messages like, “Nice move—you just protected your space.” It validates their instincts and reinforces the idea that safety is a skill, not a weakness.
At the strategic level, companies must also track safety feature engagement as a core user metric, not a back-end log.
If only a small percentage of users ever click “block,” it’s not proof that things are fine—it could be proof that no one knows how. Integrating safety analytics into product feedback loops ensures that platforms grow smarter, more responsive, and more user-friendly over time.
In a world where teens face daily digital risks, knowing how to act in the moment is everything. For businesses, ensuring that every user—especially the youngest—knows how to report and block isn’t just a responsibility. It’s a competitive advantage, a retention tool, and a sign of a platform that genuinely puts users first.
26. One risky post or DM can stay online forever, even after deletion
Many teens think that deleting a message or a post makes it disappear. But that’s far from true. Once something is sent or shared online—especially in a direct message—it can be saved, screenshotted, or backed up in ways the sender never sees.
Even apps that promote “disappearing messages” like Snapchat or Instagram vanish-mode don’t guarantee safety. People can take screenshots. They can use a second phone to record the screen. And some apps even back up conversations automatically.
What does this mean for your child? It means every message matters. Every photo. Every video. Even if it’s deleted five minutes later, someone could already have it saved.
That’s a lot of pressure. But it’s also a big chance to teach self-respect and caution.
Sit with your child and talk honestly. Say something like, “Before you send anything, ask yourself: Would I be okay if this showed up at school? Or in front of Grandma? Or in a job interview five years from now?”
Help them see that their digital footprint is real—even if the app says it’s temporary. And that online choices follow you, whether you meant for them to or not.
You can also encourage a 10-second rule. Before hitting “send,” count to 10 and think: Is this kind? Is this smart? Could this come back to hurt me or someone else?
And remind them: mistakes happen. But when we understand how the digital world works, we can move smarter and stronger.
27. 75% of teens think it’s “no big deal” to share a silly or flirty photo privately
To most teens, sending a fun or flirty photo in a DM doesn’t feel risky—it feels normal. Everyone’s doing it. It’s part of how they connect, flirt, or just have fun. They don’t see the problem… until something goes wrong.
That’s because today’s “just for fun” photo can become tomorrow’s gossip, screenshot, or blackmail.
When 3 out of 4 teens see no issue with it, it means we’re not teaching the full story. We’re not helping them think through what can happen after the photo is sent.
So how do we shift their mindset?
First, talk about power. Say something like, “When you send a photo, you’re giving someone control over that image. Not just today, but forever.” That makes it real.
Second, talk about respect. Ask, “If someone really cares about you, would they ask you to do something that puts your safety at risk?” That can spark self-reflection.
Third, talk about future impact. Colleges. Jobs. Friendships. Even one picture taken out of context can cause pain down the road.
And most importantly, talk about consent. If they wouldn’t feel okay seeing the photo on a school wall or passed around in class—it’s probably not worth sending.
This isn’t about scaring kids. It’s about helping them make choices that protect their dignity and peace of mind. Because their confidence matters more than any “flirty moment.”
28. Screenshots from DMs are the most common type of content in online bullying
Cyberbullying often doesn’t start from a public post. It starts with a private message—a joke, a rant, or even a personal confession—that gets screenshotted and shared without permission.
Once it’s out, it spreads fast. And because it came from a DM, the victim often feels doubly betrayed. They trusted someone. They shared something personal. And now it’s being used to hurt them.
Screenshots can turn into memes. They can be posted in group chats. They can be twisted into something cruel. And the pain they cause? It lasts.
What can we do?
First, help your child understand the power of screenshots. Tell them, “If you send it, you might lose control of it. Even if you trust the person today, that could change tomorrow.”
Second, encourage kindness in DMs. Let them know that even messages sent in private can hurt someone if they get out. Teach empathy and responsibility in digital communication.
Third, teach them to never share a screenshot of someone else’s message without permission. It’s not “funny.” It’s not “tea.” It’s a breach of trust—and it can lead to real emotional harm.
If your child is the victim of screenshot bullying, take action fast. Save the evidence. Report it. Contact the school if needed. Most importantly, reassure your child that their mistake or message doesn’t define them.
And if your child has shared someone else’s private message? Use it as a teachable moment. Talk through the impact. Encourage them to apologize, delete it, and do better.
Because digital kindness is learned—just like everything else.
29. 2 in 5 teens say they’ve had a friend send something risky and ask them to keep it secret
This is a heavy burden for any child. Imagine getting a risky photo or message from a friend, followed by “Please don’t tell anyone.” Now they’re stuck. If they tell, they break a promise. If they don’t, they stay part of something that feels wrong.
This is how risky behavior gets protected and hidden—by silence, guilt, and peer pressure.
When two out of five teens are put in this spot, it means we need to talk more about what real friendship looks like.
Start with this question: “What would you do if a friend sent you something they shouldn’t have?” Let your child talk. Then help them understand this:
A real friend doesn’t drag you into secrets that could hurt someone. And a real friend doesn’t make you feel scared or uncomfortable about what you know.
Give your child the language to respond. Teach them to say things like, “I care about you, but I think we need to get help.” Or, “I don’t feel okay keeping this a secret.”
Let them know it’s not tattling. It’s helping. Especially if the risky content involves nudity, threats, or mental health issues.
Make it clear: they can always come to you. Even if it’s about someone else. Even if it’s uncomfortable. You’ll guide them, not scold them.
Because when teens feel supported, they make safer—and stronger—choices.
30. Only 15% of teens say they fully understand the privacy settings on their apps
Here’s the final and maybe most fixable stat: most teens are using apps every day—but have no idea how the privacy settings work.
That means their location might be turned on. Strangers might be able to DM them. Their posts might be visible to the public. And they don’t even know it.
Only 15 out of 100 teens truly understand the settings meant to protect them.
So what’s the fix?
Simple: make app settings part of regular life. Just like you check the locks on your doors, check the locks on your child’s apps.
Sit down together and go app by app. Look at who can view their profile. Who can message them. Whether their posts are public or private. What info the app collects and shares.
Then talk about what each setting means. Don’t just toggle it—explain it. Say things like, “Turning this off means strangers can’t see where you are,” or “This setting hides your profile from search.”
Make it a habit. Every few months, go back and review settings together—especially after app updates.
And praise your child for learning how to protect their space. Because digital safety isn’t just about rules. It’s about confidence—knowing how to take control of your own digital world.
Conclusion
We’ve covered a lot—30 powerful, often alarming, but deeply important stats about risky sharing and DMs. These numbers tell stories. They show us where teens are most vulnerable, where they’re navigating alone, and where our systems—digital, educational, parental—are sometimes falling short.
But this isn’t just about fear. It’s about opportunity. Every statistic here isn’t the end of a conversation—it’s the beginning of a smarter one. One where parents don’t just hand over a device, but coach their kids on how to handle the messages that come with it.
One where schools don’t just teach tech use, but digital emotional intelligence. One where platforms don’t just add block/report buttons—but build ecosystems where kids are supported, guided, and heard.